Regrets on dying

No, I feel fine, but a nurse has just published a list of the five top regrets which dying patients had. A morbid topic, but it is pointless talking of death if the wisdom from the event can’t be transmitted to those young enough to prevent having the same regret themselves. The five regrets, in order of occurrence are:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. (mostly men of an agegroup where women were not the breadwinners, who missed out on family life)

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

The first one is the most common, and I think also the most tragic. Nobody should ever have to have that regret. Carpe diem.

2 thoughts on “Regrets on dying

  1. At first glance this does look like a morbid post, but the message is in fact a very positive one. Maybe it should carry the subtitle “How to live a more fulfilling life”. The first regret struck a chord with me as my resolution for 2012 is to be true to myself. It’s a good resolution for anybody to make, and I think I’m doing okay so far :)

  2. I agree that this is a really positive post, and if ever we needed to think about what we might regret upon dying, it is when we are still alive!

    I think I’m doing Ok with most of them, though it has sometimes taken a while to get there. At least now I won’t die with regrets 1 to 4.

    Number 5, though … that will take some work still! But at least, I suppose, I can die knowing that I was aware that I needed to let myself be happier, and had worked towards it!

    A lovely, thought-provoking post, and therefore totally appropriate in this blog!

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